Trying to find quiet time requires me to be intentional about scheduling it, often it also means being okay with the fact that all the chores were not completed. This afternoon seems more difficult then normal as my mind is racing with thoughts, and messages flash on my phone. I think it may be the time to leave the phone plugged in another room, not with me during work and study.
Many women believe it is required of us to be in constant service and available to those we love. Which is probably why I have my phone now – what if the girls, my grandparents, or (whoever) needs me? Possibly like me, you have been conditioned to believe that in order to show love we must self-sacrifice, and display complete dedication to the wants and needs of the people around us (our husband, children, extended family, friends, church, etc). Often we set aside our inner desires, passions, and dreams, and instead pick up the vacuum with an empty sense of duty.
But making room in our life for our own needs and care for the body we have, does in fact show those around us love. We take the burden of our care off the shoulders of another person, and we are able to give freely from the now full tank of energy. We can be an example of a healthy balanced life to the ones looking up to us.
God designed us to have personal dreams, and He gave us talents to use here on earth. It would be selfish of us to hide them away and not nurture that side of who we are. We often fall victim to over commitment and do not schedule time for our creative side to grow. Time spent in our gardens, painting, writing, photography, or singing (the list is endless). Taking a class that allows our talents and abilities stretch to growth, or a weekend away might seem far too indulgent. However, I am learning that self-care is an important step towards servant-hood. I do not mean to imply that we put ourselves first, but instead recognize that we cannot give to others from an empty tank.
Making our house into a home with paint, trim, and various do-it-yourself type projects over the years has seemed a bit self-indulgent to me. It wasn’t until recently that I began to see my passion and flare for decorating in a new light. In an “ah-ha Oprah” moment I suddenly saw my “homemaking” as a God given gift – the ability to create a warm inviting home for my family to find rest and comfort in.
Last year I designed a space and with help my creation came to life and is now comfortably housing my elderly grandparents. God worked through me, using my creative passion to fulfill His plans. In addition we added value and potential to our small home by allowing God to grow the gift for His glory. Out of all the things He has chipped away, the desire to change the space around me to become more functional (and of course pretty) is still going strong.
God created the want in me to prepare a home for my husband and my children, a place where I too can find rest and solitude. He is using my gifts to bless my family with love and a place of refuge. I would encourage you to follow your passions and inner dreams, try something new, and take the time to grow yourself into who God has planned you to be. I think you might be pleasantly surprised when you start indulging in proper self-care, and possibly even investing in your passions.